April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

To The Eagle:

A few weeks ago, two Steubenville high school students accused of raping a 16-year old girl in a semi-conscious state, were found guilty by an Ohio Judge. But this isn’t the end of the story. In fact, now that a verdict has been reached, it’s more important than ever to speak out against sexual violence. You might ask yourself, “but what can I do”? I would like to suggest that we can all do something and that we can no longer remain bystanders in these heartbreaking events. Consider the following scenario:

You’re out, and you think you saw something. You’re not sure; maybe it was nothing. So, you do nothing and just keep walking. The next day you hear the news. Someone needed your help, but you didn’t know what to do.

It’s time … to get involved. You, as an engaged bystander, have the opportunity to act and safely change the outcome – to prevent an assault by stepping in when you see something that doesn’t look right. Maybe you heard someone say something sexist or degrading. Maybe you witnessed someone trying to take advantage of a friend. Studies have shown that the occurrence of rape is far more extensive than reported in official statistics, and the large majority of rapists are never apprehended.

In a society that promotes a “mind your own business” message, speaking up might seem difficult. But it doesn’t have to be. Try to approach the situation as if it involved one of your friends. If you see something that doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t. If you think someone is in trouble, ask if they are OK. Be honest and direct in explaining your concerns and reasons for intervening. If you don’t feel comfortable approaching a situation on your own, ask – a friend, a coworker, anyone – for help. If the situation is dangerous, call 911.

You aren’t ruining someone’s fun or being a jerk if you speak up. You are watching out for someone’s brother, sister, child, neighbor or friend. Next time, it could be your loved one that needs help.

It’s time … to get involved and do what is right. If you would like more information on this topic, call 360-795-6400 or 866-795-9381. All services are free and confidential.

Susan Schillios

Prevention Coordinator

St. James Family Center

The Charlotte House