Raising awareness of teen dating violence

To The Eagle:

February is Teen Dating and Violence Awareness Prevention month. Dating violence is personal and so is preventing it. Each one of us can make a difference by talking about abuse and bringing it out of the shadows. Is one of your friends in an unhealthy relationship? Have you talked to your teen about dating violence? Do you know someone who might be abusive? Have a heart-to-heart.

Don't be afraid to tell a friend that you are concerned for them and want to help. Acknowledge and validate their feelings about their relationship. Encourage them to do things with you and other friends and family members, and to take part in activities outside the relationship. Be supportive and listen patiently.

With your teen, ask questions and encourage open discussion. Make sure you listen to your teen, giving them a chance to speak. Avoid analyzing, interruptions, lecturing or accusations. Discuss options your teen has if they witness dating violence or experience it themselves. If your teen is in a relationship that feels uncomfortable, awkward or frightening, assure them that they can come to you.

With yourself, evaluate your relationship, learn about dating violence and take action against abuse. If you are concerned about your relationship, or about someone you know and would like more information, call The Charlotte House. We have trained advocates on call 24 hours a day, seven days a week. All our services are free and confidential. Our 24 hour hotline is 795-6400, the toll free hotline 1-866-795-9381.

Susan Schillios

The Charlotte House